It was a Saturday night.
My head was thumping and my eyes were sore.
My entire body ached – especially my shoulders, which were knotted tight.
How much longer will this go on for? I wailed into the darkness.
I thought of the rest of the world all out enjoying their Saturday night – dancing, laughing, drinking cocktails with fun names like Tequila Facelift and Vodka Orgasm – and it made me want to weep into my glass of water.
But I wasn’t ill that Saturday night.
I wasn’t stricken down by the flu or in the grips of a migraine.
I was writing my first novel.
And I was wracked with exhaustion and despair.
I had no idea if what I was writing was any good.
I had no idea if I’d ever get the plot to work.
I had no idea if my characters were likeable or even believable.
Basically, I had no idea.
I felt like giving up practically every single day but somehow – thankfully – I kept going.
And I kept going because I had grit.
Writing a book takes creativity and imagination … but it also takes a huge amount of determination.
It’s easy to dream of writing … but quite another thing to keep on showing up at the page, day after day after day after day.
Or, in my case back then, as the mother of a young son, night after night after night after night.
So, how do you find the grit to get the words down on the page?
How do you overcome the nagging doubts that sit on your knotted shoulders as you type, telling you you’re not good enough?
The answer is, you have to want it really bad.
And you have to get crystal clear on why you want it so bad.
It could be that you’re desperate to share the message of your book with the world…
Get crystal clear on why that is. Who or how would you be helping?
It could be that writing is as essential to you as breathing…
Get crystal clear on why writing makes you so happy. Make your writing all about enjoying the journey, stop obsessing about the destination.
It could be that you love the idea of entertaining or inspiring or thrilling or scaring readers with your words…
Get crystal clear on how happy this would make you feel. Picture your words lighting up others all across the world.
If it helps, free-write your answers to the following prompts:
- I have to write because…
- My dream life as a writer would involve…
- If I don’t follow through on my writing dreams I’m afraid that…
Back when I was writing my first novel my main motivation was the financial freedom a book deal would give me.
When I had moments of doubt and despair like on that Saturday night I’d remind myself of exactly how badly I needed to make it as a writer.
Making it as a writer would put me back in control of my own destiny again, doing something that I loved, and really, who doesn’t want that?
So, I kept on showing up at the page, learning my craft from my many mistakes as I went.
And a couple of years later, my first novel was published.
I’ve since had ten other books published under my own name, plus several more as a ghostwriter.
And one thing I’ve learned more than anything else is that it’s grit, fuelled by desire, that makes writing dreams come true.
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