Yesterday, someone posted this message on my Facebook wall:
I’ve read your book and I want to take that next step and do this properly. I’ve been writing this book for 22 years and my busy working life has got in the way. I don’t want to feel frustrated any more. And being dyslexic doesn’t help either. Writing is all I think about and I want to learn…
I replied to the message on my wall but I couldn’t stop thinking about it because it struck a chord deep within me and I’m sure it will resonate with a lot of people reading this too.
Because expressing yourself through the written word can be so bloody hard.
And it can seem like so many obstacles are stacked up against us.
Lack of time.
Lack of money.
Not coming from ‘the right’ background.
Not having any contacts in the ultra middle class publishing world.
Not knowing exactly where to put speech marks or commas, or semi-colons.
Not knowing what a semi-colon is!
Not knowing how to spell.
But NONE of these things mean you’re not entitled to express yourself through the written word.
In fact, often, these things will mean that you have far more inspiring and powerful stories to tell.
Let me give you an example…
For many years I worked as a freelance editorial consultant for a publishing company. I was the only person working for that company who’d grown up on a council estate – a fact that initially made me feel slightly awkward but would ultimately make me incredibly proud.
Every so often, the bosses at the company would announce that we’d have a young person coming to do some work experience for us.
Every time, without exception, these young people would be the son or daughter of a friend of the bosses. Privately educated, hyper privileged and with very little interest in publishing. They were there simply to tick the work experience box.
I’d watch them wasting the hours away, surfing the net or updating their Facebook and I’d feel so angry. It’s so hard to get a toe in the door of publishing. It’s almost impossible for most people to land a work experience role. It made my blood boil to see such a rare opportunity being wasted on people who didn’t want it.
Then I did some work for a charity that supports homeless teens. One of the girls I worked with was passionate about writing – and incredibly talented. Life had dealt her a crappy hand leaving her homeless at age 16 and she desperately needed a break. So I asked my bosses if she could do a week of work experience with us.
To my surprise and delight, they agreed.
Seeing her sit down at her desk on the first day of her work experience was the proudest moment of my writing career.
She was working class, homeless and black. Three things you hardly ever see in the publishing world.
And she worked her butt off for that week; happily doing all the admin jobs we gave her, asking intelligent questions, soaking up the experience like a sponge.
She even brought in biscuits to share with us – despite having next to no money.
Watching her work ethic and her desire to learn everything she could about writing was humbling and awe-inspiring.
But this is the one true advantage of being dealt a crappy hand in life … such as homelessness or racism or poverty or dyslexia … it puts a fire in your belly. A burning desire to overcome the odds and prove the doubters wrong.
I felt that same fire, growing up on a council estate and then again later, as a single mum.
I took the anger and fear I felt at my situation and I turned it into determination – to learn, to grow, and to share my stories with the world through writing.
And I urge you all to do the same.
If life has dealt you what at first appears to be a crappy hand, use the resulting anger and fear as fuel to propel you into better days.
Turn your frustration into inspiration.
Don’t listen to anyone who tells you you haven’t got what it takes to achieve your dream – especially if that person is you.
Remind yourself that all the very best writers and musicians and artists and creators went through hard times and they all turned their pain into gold.
Don’t waste any more time making excuses and giving in to doubt.
Know that you have a right to write.
Believe in yourself and your creative abilities and share your creations with the world.
It will be a much richer place for the inspiration you’ll bring.